If your really having this much trouble getting it...
what do you think its going to be like when you need to
service the unit?

If you cant find a dealer whos willing to DIY-IT (sell
it to you @ retail, honor the warranty, give you access
to the software) for you.. your setting yourself up for
a nightmare down the road.

Find a "high end" B&M (brick and mortar) retail place
near you and plead your case. The CI who thinks your stealing
food from his kids mouth by not paying him for programming
is the CI you dont want to deal with. Keep trying till
you find a guy who understands your willing to pay retail
for the product but you want to tinker with the programming
yourself.