Extron isn't worth it...and they're far from the "Reasonable" keyword in the criteria. JVC makes what you're looking for...IR controllable with discrete input selects. 2 component inputs to 1 component output, also switches composite, S, and optical digital.
[Link: crutchfield.com]They also make one with 3 component inputs, but it's not remote controllable. It is however, only 100 bucks.
[Link: crutchfield.com]I think these are more along the lines of what you're looking for, if not, let me know and I'll see what else I can find.