I'm not sure how you have it hooked up, but the 286M is an emitter, not a receiver. It's placed over the IR window on a component (in this case your VR509) and receives it's IR signal from an IR receiver, like the 291-00, that's placed outside the door.
Assuming you have an IR input on your receiver, you may be able to use a 291-00 IR receiver plugged directly into your Kenwood, which is what it sound like you're trying to do with the 286M.
Look at the diagram on the following PDF file link:
[Link: xantech.com]That should explain it better.