Ok, BDP-95FD is no longer a current model.
I have to choose between current 05 or 09 models. No questions about 09, because it's got an RS232 port, but 05 only has a CONTROL IN (SR) port.
Now I am back to what I wanted to do, but have some additional info from the research.
Apparently I can use Xantech Universal Adapter Module 794-10 to convert from IR to SR, or use a simple RC circuit to strip the carrier.
[Link: avsforum.com]Does anybody have an idea what the diagram for a simple RC circuit would look like?