It depends on what is headed to the "surround back" terminals from the processor.
With a true 6.1 encoded DTS ES or DD EX DVD, you will have a discrete rear feed that will be shared. Depending in the processor, de-correlation will be applied to give the illusion of seperate left and right information.
Any processor with THX post processing will have a THX EX mode that will do this for the DD EX discs.
If the signal is plain old 5.1, 4.0, or even 2.0, the processor has to come into play again to determine what sounds go to which speakers and with what processing applied. Many procesors will take the surround signal and create a seperate side and rear signal from each input and time shift them slightly to create a soundfield that pans smoothly from front to back, back to front, and corner to corner.
Obviously there is a "garbage in, garbage out" rule here.... your Magnum PI box set wil not have the same effect as Gladiator, Star Wars Episode II or the "extended cut" versions of the LOTR films that all have discrete 6.1 soundtracks on DVD.
Some do it better than others, and the better processors like Lexicon allow you to dial in the amount of processing to tailor the effects to the speakers and your room. A small room with direct radiating surrounds may sound better with a little more processing, whereas a large room with a lot of dipoles probably already acheived the spacious and enveloping effect, and the amount of digital processing can be dialed back slightly.
Lexicon has had a 7 channel mode since the early 90s, Logic 7, and I still use the Logic 7 modes more often than any others.
I think you would be more likely to owe them an apology if you wired the system for 5.1, with speakers wired to the same outputs.
Then they will be missing out in the discrete information on the 6.1 ES and EX encoded DVDs like the ones listed above.
Go here to see what kind of titles are going to show off these extra speakers in the best way possible.
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