For AC shade control, typically what's used is a "group controller". I've attached a link for the Lutron/Vimco WC-2M-GC, and a Lutron spec sheet that describes some other options. For a single shade, I don't see why you couldn't use a product like Draper's VIC-12 screen control, its attached as well. None of these solutions include the IR portion, you'll stil need to set up a IR--CC or IR-12v device, there are a number of them.
jcmitch
[Link: vimco.com] [Link: lutron.com][Link: draperinc.com]