1. True if you do NOT want to use Prontoscript. 2. Extender control is WiFi from TSU9600 to router. RFX9600 is hard-wired to router. 3. You will likely want 2nd 9600. 4. Yes, TSU9800 only adds 2 hard buttons above that provided by 9600. You should be able to move your config right into it - Presuming you are using PEPV2 and not PEPv1. (search this site/see sticky threads for tips on converting a PEPv1 config to PEPv2 - as codes must be inside "My Database").
EscientPronto will control any of your escients directly via TCP/IP and is reasonably priced. You will pay license fee per remote. See my siggy for link to documentation. Email me on Yahoo for more info or search this forum for EscientPronto.