My understanding of Homseer, from a long time user, is that the program itself cannot be controlled by a remote. You can learn IR codes using a third party hardware that allows it to be incorporated into macros within Homseer and sent to devices via TCP/IP. NevoSL is not capable of that at this time. You can control any IR controllable X-10 (using X-10's IR543 Command Center) device using the 0167 Home Automation code. Insteon is not supported, but I spoke to someone at CEDIA who said Nevo and Insteon were working on compatibility, as well as ZWave.
"Until you bring a remote home that will put the kids to bed, I'm NOT impressed." My lovely but technophobic wife