lost most control of my fingers so pleaqe bear with me, it hurts like hell 2 type.

Hi,
I'm an ex nasa engineer now terminal & bedridden..
but i still love electronics so i have various electronic stuff around my bed and with 2 tower computers, a laptop, 32" tv, receiver, cameras, ipod, palm pilot, a/v switcher, dvds and 17 speaskers plus remote controlled hospital bed i have many manyremote controls so i'm trying 2 do away with a few..
i bought the sony RM-AV3000 and am attempting to set it up but i'm having problems, some due 2 the fact that i have hand damage so i have 2 wait till i have feeling in my fingers (and not much pain) before pressing any buttons..
i just got a yamaha htr-5650 receiver - over kill really for my bedroom but i wanted the digital inputs, 5.1, neo:6 , etc...
anyway.. the sony unit i tried the code 4030, and i swear i think it worke at first or me - but i'm not 100% sure because i take liquid pill morphine, smoke pot medically (2 keep my spasms down) and other various drugs so i'm not as certain as i would usually be.
but i do know i can no longer turn the yamaha on or off. so i tried settin this part up thru the learning portion of the remote. the remote beeped but still no on/off.
now thi reciver\uses one button fo on and another button to go into standby so i tried setting up 2 bttons still nothing!! i can not turn this htr-5650 on or off.. what gives here..
heres a list of itmes i'm trying 2 control - of course being this is the first day i've hand this remote it will take some time, any suggestions or recommendations i'd certainly appreciate.. i'm also thinking of getting the Home Theater Master MX-500 too.
Sony RM-AV3000 remote
* = current preset


Motorola digital cable box *3103
Receiver Yamaha HTR-5650 *4030
DVD (multi) Sony DVP-NC665P *internal
Philips vcr *1013
DVD (single)Cyberhome CH DVD-300 cause it reads DVD mp3's (1000+ songs. most units only

read CD mp3's)

Sharp tv *8014
x-10 sockets & wall switches
Sima svs4d a/v selector switches inputs between my outside x-10 cameras to aux in
x-10 camera ninja-mount control (camera rotation)
smc ez-stream network av unit
Simmons remote controlled bed (vibrate/up down etc)
ATI Remote Wonder
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lost of stuuf?

thank u