Honestly, either the Harmony system or hiring someone to handle it 100% is your best bet. RTI is completely out if you want to do anything yourself. URC has their iOS app in the CCP lineup, but its not great, and you will have to program everything 100% for the remote, then again 100% for the ipad, then again 100% if you want to use your iphone. Control 4 will surprise you as to the price compared to RTI especially and even URC. You will absolutely have to work with a dealer, but it may turn out to be less expensive than the cost of either pro option mentioned in terms of hardware cost.